Navigating Transitions From Adolescence to Adulthood

As a therapist, I find myself almost daily sitting across from a number of young adults who are navigating the turbulent journey into adulthood. I often wonder, why is it that this journey feels more like a tumultuous hike rather than a leisurely stroll?

For some reason the path to young adulthood is often met with emotional pitfalls and mental obstacles, all with no blueprint or rule book on how to work through them. So, whether you are a young adult leaving the protective halls of high school or college, experiencing the pleasure of living on your own for the first time, or embarking on a brand new job – just know the journey is not always going to be easy but you are fully equipped to walk through it.

Let’s talk about a few tips that may help you navigate these transitional waters with grace and resilience. You will indeed come out on the other side in one piece with all sanity still intact, you can do this. 

How To Navigate Transitioning to Adulthood Gracefully

1.    Dive Head First into the Unknown

It is beyond scary to stand on the edge of extensive, uncharted territory. It can be both terrifying and also exhilarating. Embrace the unknown of this new chapter in your life. You won’t have all the answers and that is the beauty of it. You will learn things about yourself you never knew and go places you never felt comfortable going before – that is so powerful. Beauty can often lie in the journey instead of in the destination. Let that be your comfort as you embrace the path of growth and self-discovery. 

2.    Practice Self-Compassion

Remind yourself throughout this journey that perfection is an illusion, it is not real. You will often stumble on this path, well to be honest, you may even fall flat on your face, but that is perfectly okay. Give yourself grace, you are learning and growing just as much as the next person. Be kind to yourself during this time. Let your imperfections be your encouragement, they are what make you, well, you! Remember failure is NOT the end, it is merely a stepping stone along the journey.

3.    Create a Network of Support

Just as Rachel, Monica, Phoebe, Ross, Chandler, and Joey had each other and formed their little squad, you need one too. Build an inner circle made up of family, friends, mentors (in work or outside), and maybe even a therapist who can offer a helping hand and guidance. This inner circle will become the anchor that keeps you grounded during this time. They will be the foundation that holds you steady on this journey through change. 

4.    Stay Organized and Build Routine 

There will be deadlines, social events, appointments, etc. flying at you like never before during this transition – keeping all those in order will help reduce your stress significantly. Organization can provide a sense of control and reduce any anxiety amidst the chaos, and trust me you’ll want any bit of control you can find – it is never too late to start. A routine, whether it’s a morning skincare process, a weekly lunch date with a friend, or a night-time workout class – this routine will also help provide normalcy and structure that is greatly needed. 

5.     Set Realistic Goals

It is okay to shoot for the stars and carry those childhood dreams into adulthood, but remember this journey is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. I always say “baby steps ARE big steps” and that is never truer than in young adulthood. Set goals that are within reason and are achievable. Let them be as small as mastering the art of cooking spaghetti for dinner or as big as getting a job at a startup tech company. Small victories can propel you into the next phase of life, they help keep you motivated. 

6.     Prioritize Holding Space for Yourself and Your Mental Health 

Transitions are tough on your mind, body, and spirit. Look out for your personal signs of anxiety, depression, and stress – don’t let them pass you by. If you feel you need professional health, know that reaching out is a sign of resilience and a proactive step towards growth and overall well-being. Within the whirlwind of young adulthood, holding space for yourself is pivotal. Check out this article on holding space for some tips and tricks. Allow yourself time for self-care and self-reflection – whether that is mediation, a bubble bath, or simply journaling with your thoughts. Holding space will allow you room to process your experiences and connect with your inner self. 

Remember, you are not alone in this transition process, each young adult has a unique journey but the challenges we face are shared among us. Feeling overwhelmed, scared, eager, restless, etc. is completely okay. You are human and you’re only able to do the best you can. Step into this new chapter with confidence, curiosity, and courage. The journey will not be a straight path but it will be one of immense growth and adventure. You WILL come out on the other side, best of luck! 

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Brooke is a psychotherapist who specializes in helping clients dealing with difficult life transitions, symptoms of anxiety or depression, and LGBTQ+-related issues. She practices a collective and modern approach to mental health counseling, which is rooted in genuineness and vulnerability.