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7 Tips for Setting Healthy Boundaries

by | May 24, 2020

Boundaries are our personal guidelines for how others will treat us. They are the limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships.

Boundary setting is essential. It helps us maintain our self-worth and ensures our relationships are caring and respectful.

The Benefits of Boundaries:

  • More compassion.

  • Greater assertiveness.

  • Your needs are met.

  • Less anger and resentment.

  • Feeling of peace and safety.

  • Time and energy to do things that nourish and bring joy to your body, mind, and spirit.

Here are 7 tips for setting healthy boundaries:

1) Know your limits.

Before becoming involved in a situation, know what’s acceptable to you, and what isn’t. It’s best to be as specific as possible, or you might be pulled into the trap of giving just a little bit more, over and over, until you’ve given far too much.

2) Know your values.

Every person’s limits are different, and they’re often determined by their personal values. For example, if you value family above all else, this might lead to stricter limits on how late you will stay at work, away from family. Know what’s most important to you, and protect it.

3) Listen to your emotions.

If you notice feelings of discomfort or resentment, don’t bury them. Try to understand what your feelings are telling you. Resentment, for example, can often be traced to feelings of being taken advantage of.

4) Have self-respect.

If you always give in to others, ask if you are showing as much respect to yourself as you show to others. Boundaries that are too open might be due to misguided attempts to be liked by elevating other people’s needs above one’s own.

5) Have respect for others.

Be sure that your actions are not self-serving, at the expense of others. Interactions should not be about winning, or taking as much as possible. Instead, consider what’s fair to everyone, given the setting and relationship. You might “win”, but at the cost of a relationship’s long-term health.

6) Be assertive.

When you know it’s time to set a boundary, don’t be shy. Say “no” respectfully, but without ambiguity. If you can make a compromise while respecting your own boundaries, try it. This is a good way to soften the “no”, while showing respect to everyone involved.

7) Consider the long view.

Some days you will give more than you take, and other days you will take more than you give. Be willing to take a longer view of relationships, when appropriate. But if you’re always the one who’s giving or taking, there might be a problem.

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Gleyce Almeida-Farrell is a psychotherapist and the founder of Holistic Wellness Practice. She specializes in helping young adults and adults overcome symptoms of anxiety and depression utilizing a holistic and integrative approach to mental wellness.
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