Times feel particularly tough right now. It might seem like wherever you turn, there’s bad news about the economy, the planet, politics, society, work, other people, your own health, and so on. The negative can feel like it totally outweighs the positive. So what’s with this preoccupation with the negative?
It turns out, that pervasive feeling of everything you notice being terrible, is in fact your brain’s way of trying to protect you from future harm. It’s something called negativity bias.
We are hard-wired to notice negative experiences much more than positive ones. We remember them more effectively, we focus on them more, and it even takes more brain power to process negative experiences, which means they stick better. Positive experiences need to happen at a rate of up to five times as often for them to make the same impact on our minds.
This is negativity bias. It is a universal adult experience. We all notice the negative more than the positive, and it takes us more effort to remember and embrace the positive experiences we have.
Since we all experience negativity bias at least to some extent, it can play very effectively into confirmation bias. Confirmation bias is a tendency to notice, remember, and favor information or experiences that already fit in with our existing assumptions and mindset.
When we know things are negative, we often go looking for more negative things to fulfill our confirmation bias. We will remember our negative findings even more effectively, giving them more credit for accuracy than we would for something positive.
Negativity bias can cause a host of issues for us, especially when it feeds into itself. This way of viewing the world can hinder personal growth, and damage your emotional wellbeing. Some impacts include:
So is that it? Are we all stuck, trending toward only noticing and remembering the negative?
Negativity bias is inherent—evolutionary—but it isn’t the only way we perceive things around us. We are capable of noticing the positive! It simply takes extra effort and organization to make sure that effort sticks. You aren’t alone in feeling that negativity bias has caused problems for you, but you also aren’t alone in wanting change or in making it, either.
Most of us operate in mostly fixed mindsets, where we assume that abilities are inherent and failures happen due to a lack of ability, not a lack of effort. A growth mindset is the understanding that each of us is capable of making change, growing into sets of skills or abilities, and we can all approach new tasks and activities with the goal of success through effort. It includes understanding that a lot of skills and abilities are not inherent, but are learned, and can be acquired through support and effort. Setbacks and failures are part of the process of growth, not an indication of inherent worthlessness.
A growth mindset requires work to cultivate but can unlock a lot of potential and freedom for you, including reducing the impacts of negativity bias.
A growth mindset can combat negativity bias directly. In the list of impacts of negativity bias above, a lot of them are byproducts of a fixed mindset. If you assume change can’t happen because a single negative experience happens, then you’ll stifle growth in yourself to ensure negative experiences stop happening. Fixed mindsets inhibit collaboration, innovation, or seeking feedback/constructive criticism.
When you embrace a growth mindset (and remember, this takes effort, it is a learned skill, not an inherent one!), you can more easily see that the negative experience you had was in fact simply a part of a process of growth. It isn’t so negative when it’s part of the process toward success, is it?
Counterbalancing a negativity bias is not a passive experience. You can take the reins, and work to be mindful of the good all around you. This emphasis and attention on positive things doesn’t eliminate the bad, it just makes it harder for the bad to completely outweigh the good. It brings you to a more realistic, but also optimistic, mindset.
Having agency over your mindset can be empowering, and calling your attention to the good around you is a way to take the reins for yourself. You can combat your negativity bias by:
As you consider these questions, see if you can take some steps to increase your access to joy. Clear some time in your calendar for the things you love, that may have been put aside in the past. Prioritize effort in yourself and your emotional well-being.
One of our therapists’ favorite quotes by the author Kurt Vonnegut emphasizes this simple mindset switch, “And I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.”
Negativity bias can feel overwhelming and all-consuming, especially in tough times. Additional support can be a massive help in letting you prioritize finding the good in the world and counterbalancing an inherent focus on the negative. A therapist or coach who offers a grounded perspective that acknowledges the bad things while balancing them with the good can help. Strategizing for ways to find the good can also often be easier in a therapy setting, with someone to bounce ideas off of and to use for accountability in future efforts. We at Holistic Wellness Practice can offer you that balance. You can contact us for a free consult, to see how we can help you rein in your negativity bias.
Gleyce Almeida-Farrell is a psychotherapist and the founder of Holistic Wellness Practice in Alpharetta, GA. She specializes in helping adults manage stress and overcome symptoms of anxiety utilizing a holistic and integrative approach to mental wellness.
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