When should we choose a 90-minute couples session instead of 60 minutes?
Quick Answer
We recommend 90-minute couples session when getting started or when you need more time to slow things down and make progress—especially if conflict is high, the topics feel complex, or your schedule limits you to meeting every other week. The extra 30 minutes gives both partners space to feel heard, practice communication tools, and leave with clear next steps instead of feeling rushed.
Detailed Answer
A 60-minute session is a great fit for steady progress, but we recommend starting with 90-minute sessions as they can be especially helpful when you want more breathing room to regulate emotions, understand patterns, and practice new skills in-session.
A 90-minute couples session is often the best choice when:
- You are just starting couples therapy.
- Conflict is intense or conversations escalate quickly. More time helps you slow down and work through the moment without cutting off mid-repair.
- You’re working through bigger relational topics (for example: infidelity, parenting stress, intimacy challenges, money conflict, or long-standing communication cycles).
- You’re meeting less frequently. KMH commonly schedules couples sessions every other week, and a longer session can help you cover more ground when sessions are spaced out.
- You want time for skill practice. Many couples benefit from practicing real conversations in session—then leaving with a simple plan for what to try during the week.
We recommend couples start with a few 90-minute sessions and later shift to 60-minute “maintenance” once things stabilize. You can also meet in person or via secure video through Virtual Counseling & Therapy. If you’re not sure which length fits best, start with a consult via Couples & Marriage Counseling in Alpharetta and ask what your clinician recommends.