How should we prepare for our first couples counseling session?
Quick Answer
For your first couples counseling session, come with a shared goal, a few concrete examples of what keeps you stuck, and a willingness to listen. Complete any intake forms ahead of time. Decide if you prefer a 60- or 90-minute session and, for virtual counseling, test your private space and tech.
Detailed Answer
Couples & Marriage Counseling works best when you show up prepared and on the same team. Before your first couples counseling session with Kellen Mental Health, try these steps.
1) Get clear on what you want. Each partner writes 2 to 3 goals and one sign things are improving. Examples: calmer talks, rebuild trust, better teamwork with parenting, more closeness.
2) Bring a few recent examples. Pick one or two moments that capture the pattern. Note what happened, what you felt, and what you needed. This helps us map the cycle and start changing it using evidence-based therapy such as the Gottman Method, Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and Solution-Focused Brief Therapy.
3) Complete any questionnaires ahead of time. Some couples also use tools like the Prepare/Enrich Assessment for Couples. If you are asked to take an assessment, do it separately, answer honestly, and avoid debating the questions at home.
4) Plan the logistics. Sessions are offered in 60 or 90 minutes, in person or through online therapy and virtual counseling. A 90-minute first session can help when time is tight or conflict is high. For Virtual Counseling, choose a quiet, private room and test your camera and sound on a secure video platform.
Come with questions about pacing (many couples start every other week), homework, and how to handle hot topics like intimacy, money, or infidelity. If you feel anxious, a few minutes of slow breathing before you log on or walk in can help you stay present.