Blog Posts by Kristi Schwegman, LCSW

Thinking and Communicating Relationally

Thinking and Communicating Relationally

What does it mean to think and speak relationally?  It simply means to think in terms of “we” rather than  “me and you,” or even worse, “me versus you.”  

Book Summary: How Can I Get Through to You by Terry Real  

Book Summary: How Can I Get Through to You by Terry Real  

This is a book I often recommend to others.  These are my personal notes from the book.  These are not all direct quotes, but also paraphrases and added commentary from

Book Summary:  Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Julie and John Gottman  

Book Summary:  Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection by Julie and John Gottman  

This is a book I often recommend to others.  These are my personal notes from the book.  Notes are not direct quotes, but also paraphrases and added commentary from me. 

A Good Apology 

A Good Apology 

A meaningful apology is more than just muttering the words, “I’m sorry.” Learning how to make amends in a meaningful way that resonates with the other person will lead back

6 Ways to End the Victim Mindset

6 Ways to End the Victim Mindset

A Victim MindsetA victim mindset can be defined as a person that tends to recognize themselves as a victim of the negative actions of others, and behaves as if this

Book Summary: In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them by Stan Tatkin

Book Summary: In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them by Stan Tatkin

Few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible.

Dealing with Disappointment

Dealing with Disappointment

Disappointment is one of the most frequently experienced emotions, often with high intensity.  However, few of us really know how to deal with it.

Book Summary: What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey

Book Summary: What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey

Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened

Book Summary: Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin

Book Summary: Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin

Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well

Terry Real’s Seesaw System

Terry Real’s Seesaw System

What is the Seesaw Analogy? It’s a system that challenges you to change your own behavior rather than waiting for the other person to change. Learn more.

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